Breaking Through
Transcending Personal Barriers by Laura Huckabee-Jennings

May 20, 2010

Becoming the Person You Were Meant To Be – part 2: Defining Your Values

Filed under: Career Development,Life Choices — Tags: , , , — Huckabee @ 9:03 am

The root of finding fulfillment and being true to yourself is understanding your own personal values at a deep and fundamental level.  When you honor your values, you find satisfaction in what you are doing and feel at peace.  On the contrary, when your values are violated, you may feel angry or deeply frustrated.

How can you discover your values?  One way is to look at  list of values and try to select those that speak to you, and then keep shortening the list until you are down to the most important 5 and prioritizing those.  You can also look at moments in your life when you felt most fulfilled, satisfied and full of purpose and ask yourself which values were being honored.  Conversely, when you think of times you were angry, you can ask yourself which values were being violated.

I noticed this myself when I found myself getting angry over trying to change an airline ticket to go home about 12 hours earlier than planned, and being asked to pay more than 3x what the original ticket had cost for the pleasure of doing so.  When I looked closely at my reaction I realized that I have a strong value around fairness, and this situation just felt inherently unfair, and that was the basis for my anger.

Keep a list of your values and once you have the top five, try sorting them in order of importance.  Which one must you honor above all others?  Which one would keep you from being happy were it violated?  Once you have a top value, which one would come next?  And so forth.

These Values help you quickly assess opportunities, people, projects and environments which will serve you and those which will conflict with your core values.  Here’s one list of possible values, but you may find others fit more closely for you – feel free to add your own words and explore what feels right for you.

Abundance Acceptance Accomplishment Accuracy
Achievement Adaptability Adventure Affection
Affluence Aggressiveness Agility Alertness
Altruism Ambition Appreciation Assertiveness
Attentiveness Attractiveness Audacity Awareness
Balance Beauty Belonging Benevolence
Boldness Bravery Brilliance Calmness
Candor Capability Celebrity Certainty
Challenge Charity Charm Chastity
Cheerfulness Clarity Cleanliness Comfort
Commitment Compassion Confidence Conformity
Connection Consciousness Consistency Contribution
Control Coolness Cooperation Courtesy
Creativity Credibility Curiosity Decisiveness
Deference Dependability Depth Determination
Devoutness Dignity Diligence Discipline
Discovery Discretion Diversity Dominance
Duty Economy Education Effectiveness
Efficiency Elegance Empathy Endurance
Energy Enthusiasm Excellence Expertise
Exploration Fairness Faith Family
Fearlessness Fidelity Financial independence Firmness
Fitness Flexibility Flow Focus
Freedom Friendliness Frugality Generosity
Giving Grace Gratitude Growth
Harmony Health Holiness Honesty
Honor Humility Humor Imagination
Impact Impartiality Independence Industry
Insightfulness Integrity Intelligence Intensity
Intimacy Intuition Joy Justice
Kindness Knowledge Leadership Learning
Liberty Logic Love Loyalty
Making a difference Mastery Maturity Meekness
Mellowness Mindfulness Modesty Neatness
Obedience Open-mindedness Optimism Organization
Originality Passion Peace Perceptiveness
Perfection Perseverance Philanthropy Piety
Playfulness Poise Popularity Power
Pragmatism Preparedness Privacy Professionalism
Prosperity Punctuality Purity Realism
Reason Recognition Recreation Relaxation
Reliability Resilience Resourcefulness Respect
Reverence Rigor Sacredness Sacrifice
Security Self-control Selflessness Self-reliance
Sensitivity Sensuality Serenity Service
Sexuality Silliness Simplicity Sincerity
Skillfulness Solidarity Spirituality Spontaneity
Strength Structure Success Support
Sympathy Teamwork Temperance Traditionalism
Tranquility Trust Truth Understanding
Unflappability Utility Variety Virtue
Vision Vitality Wealth Winning
Wisdom Wonder Zeal

March 9, 2010

Have a Personal Vision

Filed under: Business Strategy,Career Development,Life Choices — Tags: , , , — Huckabee @ 6:07 pm

When you feel least motivated at work or in any role in your life, what is keeping you from being motivated?  Perhaps it is a poor work environment, insufficient rewards, a difficult boss or coworkers.  Or is it?

The surprising answer to motivational deficits are not individual relationships and physical environment or a lack of financial reward, but rather on your ability to control your destiny and the alignment of what you are doing to your personal values and vision.  Certainly all the variables in your surroundings help, and may make your work less onerous, but true motivation comes from internal factors:

  • Control of your own work: how, when and by what method you achieve the goal
  • Ability to do the job well: having the skills, knowledge and support to do a great job
  • Alignment of the goal with your own personal values and goals

The first two are driven by management culture, and are key elements of engagement, but the third is only possible if you have a sense of your own personal vision.  In fact, having a personal vision, a passion for something larger than your own personal gain, is such a strong motivator, that it can overcome the first two factors and drive you to unprecedented success and achievement.

Think about Gandhi who began a career as a mediocre lawyer, and discovered his purpose to overcome the abject poverty of his people, and their feelings of inferiority, and rose to greatness and influence on the power of that vision.

How can you develop your own personal vision?

First, start with identifying your core values, then work on envisioning a future in which those values are all honored to their highest in your life and work.  This becomes your personal vision.  Now look at the work and life you have and start planning how this can change into the life and work you need to manifest your personal vision.

Your vision enables your most powerful self to emerge.

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