Breaking Through
Transcending Personal Barriers by Laura Huckabee-Jennings

May 20, 2010

Becoming the Person You Were Meant To Be – part 2: Defining Your Values

Filed under: Career Development,Life Choices — Tags: , , , — Huckabee @ 9:03 am

The root of finding fulfillment and being true to yourself is understanding your own personal values at a deep and fundamental level.  When you honor your values, you find satisfaction in what you are doing and feel at peace.  On the contrary, when your values are violated, you may feel angry or deeply frustrated.

How can you discover your values?  One way is to look at  list of values and try to select those that speak to you, and then keep shortening the list until you are down to the most important 5 and prioritizing those.  You can also look at moments in your life when you felt most fulfilled, satisfied and full of purpose and ask yourself which values were being honored.  Conversely, when you think of times you were angry, you can ask yourself which values were being violated.

I noticed this myself when I found myself getting angry over trying to change an airline ticket to go home about 12 hours earlier than planned, and being asked to pay more than 3x what the original ticket had cost for the pleasure of doing so.  When I looked closely at my reaction I realized that I have a strong value around fairness, and this situation just felt inherently unfair, and that was the basis for my anger.

Keep a list of your values and once you have the top five, try sorting them in order of importance.  Which one must you honor above all others?  Which one would keep you from being happy were it violated?  Once you have a top value, which one would come next?  And so forth.

These Values help you quickly assess opportunities, people, projects and environments which will serve you and those which will conflict with your core values.  Here’s one list of possible values, but you may find others fit more closely for you – feel free to add your own words and explore what feels right for you.

Abundance Acceptance Accomplishment Accuracy
Achievement Adaptability Adventure Affection
Affluence Aggressiveness Agility Alertness
Altruism Ambition Appreciation Assertiveness
Attentiveness Attractiveness Audacity Awareness
Balance Beauty Belonging Benevolence
Boldness Bravery Brilliance Calmness
Candor Capability Celebrity Certainty
Challenge Charity Charm Chastity
Cheerfulness Clarity Cleanliness Comfort
Commitment Compassion Confidence Conformity
Connection Consciousness Consistency Contribution
Control Coolness Cooperation Courtesy
Creativity Credibility Curiosity Decisiveness
Deference Dependability Depth Determination
Devoutness Dignity Diligence Discipline
Discovery Discretion Diversity Dominance
Duty Economy Education Effectiveness
Efficiency Elegance Empathy Endurance
Energy Enthusiasm Excellence Expertise
Exploration Fairness Faith Family
Fearlessness Fidelity Financial independence Firmness
Fitness Flexibility Flow Focus
Freedom Friendliness Frugality Generosity
Giving Grace Gratitude Growth
Harmony Health Holiness Honesty
Honor Humility Humor Imagination
Impact Impartiality Independence Industry
Insightfulness Integrity Intelligence Intensity
Intimacy Intuition Joy Justice
Kindness Knowledge Leadership Learning
Liberty Logic Love Loyalty
Making a difference Mastery Maturity Meekness
Mellowness Mindfulness Modesty Neatness
Obedience Open-mindedness Optimism Organization
Originality Passion Peace Perceptiveness
Perfection Perseverance Philanthropy Piety
Playfulness Poise Popularity Power
Pragmatism Preparedness Privacy Professionalism
Prosperity Punctuality Purity Realism
Reason Recognition Recreation Relaxation
Reliability Resilience Resourcefulness Respect
Reverence Rigor Sacredness Sacrifice
Security Self-control Selflessness Self-reliance
Sensitivity Sensuality Serenity Service
Sexuality Silliness Simplicity Sincerity
Skillfulness Solidarity Spirituality Spontaneity
Strength Structure Success Support
Sympathy Teamwork Temperance Traditionalism
Tranquility Trust Truth Understanding
Unflappability Utility Variety Virtue
Vision Vitality Wealth Winning
Wisdom Wonder Zeal

March 9, 2010

Have a Personal Vision

Filed under: Business Strategy,Career Development,Life Choices — Tags: , , , — Huckabee @ 6:07 pm

When you feel least motivated at work or in any role in your life, what is keeping you from being motivated?  Perhaps it is a poor work environment, insufficient rewards, a difficult boss or coworkers.  Or is it?

The surprising answer to motivational deficits are not individual relationships and physical environment or a lack of financial reward, but rather on your ability to control your destiny and the alignment of what you are doing to your personal values and vision.  Certainly all the variables in your surroundings help, and may make your work less onerous, but true motivation comes from internal factors:

  • Control of your own work: how, when and by what method you achieve the goal
  • Ability to do the job well: having the skills, knowledge and support to do a great job
  • Alignment of the goal with your own personal values and goals

The first two are driven by management culture, and are key elements of engagement, but the third is only possible if you have a sense of your own personal vision.  In fact, having a personal vision, a passion for something larger than your own personal gain, is such a strong motivator, that it can overcome the first two factors and drive you to unprecedented success and achievement.

Think about Gandhi who began a career as a mediocre lawyer, and discovered his purpose to overcome the abject poverty of his people, and their feelings of inferiority, and rose to greatness and influence on the power of that vision.

How can you develop your own personal vision?

First, start with identifying your core values, then work on envisioning a future in which those values are all honored to their highest in your life and work.  This becomes your personal vision.  Now look at the work and life you have and start planning how this can change into the life and work you need to manifest your personal vision.

Your vision enables your most powerful self to emerge.

November 24, 2009

Giving Thanks

Filed under: Business Strategy,Life Choices — Tags: — Huckabee @ 10:56 am

This holiday season, I have so much to be thankful for.  My family is healthy, we are financially intact, my business is growing, my clients are interesting, learning and taking away great lessons and growth from our work together.  My children are doing well in school and other pursuits, and I’m taking on some new creative work that satisfies my soul.

Most of all, I feel a positive wind of change in the air.  I don’t know what 2010 will hold, but I am excited about it and meeting it with eyes wide open and charged up to take on whatever comes my way.  I am thankful for the energy to do this, and the support of my husband to keep pursuing my dreams.

What are you giving thanks for this holiday season?  What has blessed your life this year?

November 2, 2009

Environmental Design

Filed under: Business Strategy,Career Development,Life Choices — Tags: , — Huckabee @ 9:11 am

In the coaching world, we talk about environmental design as a way of enhancing and facilitating change and development. What that really means is that change is easier when the environment you live and work in supports the change.

Have you ever been to a training where you learned about a new exciting tool and came back ready to kick off a new way of working, interacting or planning, only to find that enthusiasm dampened by day 2, and the training forgotten within a few weeks? This is a result of poor environmental design.

You have a new tool or skill, but you come back to the same office, same desk, same tasks, same co-workers – all of which supported the old set of habits and skills. Without support and an environment that actively and passively encourages the use of new skills, the old patterns re-emerge quickly.

So what can you do to really look at your environment and how it impacts your ability to implement change? Here are 5 ways to look around and see what is supported in your environment:   

  1. Physical Environment. Look around and see what is in your immediate work environment. Is it neat and organized or cluttered and messy? Where do new items land? Where do “important” projects and tasks land? Do you face colleagues or a wall or window? What can you hear in your environment? When you look at your physical environment, does it encourage you to take the actions you need? Is it more conducive to collaborative work or solitary research/writing and thinking? Does it help you focus? Does it keep you abreast of what everyone in the team is doing? What is important to you and your progress, and does the physical environment support that? How could you make it more supportive of your goals?
  2. Social Environment. What do you get from the people in your work, home and social environment? Do they encourage you to reach your goals? Do they have compatible goals? Are they prone to sabotaging your efforts, or are they excited to see you change? If they aren’t supportive, who could you recruit to spend more time with who would be more encouraging?
  3. Temporal Environment. How do you structure your time during the day and over the course of a week, and how does that impact your ability to make changes and achieve your goals? Are you able to use your most productive hours on the most difficult tasks? Are you actively managing your energy levels and scheduling tasks when the right energy is there to support them?
  4. Intellectual Environment. What kinds of intellectual stimulation do you get from your environment? Do you have challenging people with new ideas in your environment? What kinds of reading material, news, radio and other media do you keep in your environment and how does that impact your goals? What changes might improve your motivation and ability to stay on track with new behaviors and skills?
  5. Measurement Environment. What is tracked and measured in your environment? How is progress noted and how often? Are the things being measured encourage you to make change? If not, what kinds of measures might make more sense? How often are they measured?

In order to effectively make a change or build new behaviors, you can make it infinitely easier by designing the right environment. Think about someone trying to start a new diet. One of the first changes is to take “forbidden” food out of the kitchen, maybe join a support group or begin the diet with a friend or spouse, to get new recipes supporting the new diet and setting up a measurement and tracking system to see daily progress and understand any setbacks.

All changes are similar in many ways. They are hard, and can only be tackled when the motivation is there, but that is rarely enough. In order to create success, you need to carefully examine your environment and create stimuli and support for changes, new behaviors and new skills.

July 4, 2009

Building a High Performing Management Team

Filed under: Business Strategy,Life Choices — admin @ 3:33 pm

In my line of work, I get up close and personal with the people running businesses, starting businesses and growing businesses. I have tremendous respect for the entrepreneurial spirit that motivates people to take the personal and financial risks associated with starting a business, and I love my clients. They inspire me, they teach me, they challenge me and they allow me to feel useful.

When my clients struggle, one of the most common areas of struggle is managing within their own organizations. Particularly difficult for founders, but certainly common in lots of other places in organizations, is a struggle over responsibility, accountability and the ability to commit the company (or part of it) to a course of action. When you start something, it is natural to want to guarantee success. For many people, this means managing the details, cutting off “interference” or “distraction” from others, or sometimes just shouting loud enough to “motivate” others.

Organizations with walls and lack of trust build up when the people running them resort to any of these behaviors, and walls mean lack of efficiency, insufficient communication, and resentment. If you think you are “protecting” your organization from distraction or interference, or driving performance by building fear, make sure you are not ignoring good business ideas from the rest of the company, allowing lack of direct and honest communication to foster distrust and suspicion, or pursuing goals that are not commonly shared.

Here are six signs you have trust issues:

1. The major issues for the business are not subject to open discussion. You may hear phrases like, “we’ve been over this, and we’re not talking about it again,” or “that decision’s been made. end of discussion,” or “that’s my problem, leave me alone with it.” Are there questions that can’t be asked? Sacred cows in your organization that are beyond examination? Is there an group in the organization that is held less accountable for their deliverables than others?

2. Problem-solving is done by the fewest number of people possible. Do groups “hide” issues, and try to manage them without letting anyone know there is an issue? Is a critical function (like production, or IT) frequently left out of problem-solving that will affect them?

3. Any layer of management “reaches through” another on a regular basis to get status reports. Does “the boss” skip through layers of management to talk to the “field” and measure their performance directly on a regular basis? Does regular reporting ignore the management structure in place?

4. Planning is done in isolated groups, and not for the entire organization. Do you have a “plan” for each group in the organizaton (i.e. an R&D plan, a marketing plan, a sales plan, a production plan, a finance plan), and lack an overall plan that defines common goals? Do you establish strategic goals before creating the organizational ones, or the reverse?

5. There are no processes for getting new ideas aired, or the processes are ignored. Do new ideas, processes, products, services seem to materialize from thin air, and it isn’t clear who approved them or how they got the green light to be implemented? Do you have management processes for reviewing new ideas, but no one has ever seen them in action? Do you ignore the processes you have because they are too cumbersome or don’t lead to good discussion and decisions?

6. Any group blames another group for the organization’s problems. Do you find members of one team constantly pointing out the faults of other teams rather than addressing their own shortcomings? Is there a scapegoat team in your organization? a team beyond reproach?

All of these are signs that your organization is behaving dysfunctionally, often due to personal conflicts in your management team. The key to improving performance is building trust and breaking down those “silos” of responsibility to get everyone behind a common vision of where you are going and how you are going to get there.

Building trust and building a common vision and plan are not easy, short processes. A management team has to invest time, money and energy in hashing out issues with the current business, developing a vision for the future, and agreeing on what it is going to take to get there. Points of view have to be articulated, understood, and incorporated into the plan. Compromises must be made, and everyone must be committed to the final result, have an action plan, accountability and regular mutual review.

Without this, organizations can flail without significant progress as individuals and organizations work at cross-purposes and the benefits of teamwork are not realized.

How can you start? I recommend that you begin with the team at the top, with team-building exercises, and strategic planning based on industry trends, SWOT analysis, definition of a source of competitive advantage and a 3-5 year plan based on realistic expectations of the organization. Agree on where you are going, how you are going to get there, and who is going to do what, and get back together to review progress on the plan. Adjust it if necessary. Discuss how it’s going. Don’t be afraid to share information, good or bad. Repeat the whole process annually at least. Once it’s working, consider rolling it out to the next level of management down… rinse and repeat!

June 8, 2009

The Power of Quitting

Filed under: Life Choices — admin @ 3:34 pm

I just heard Seth Godin speak about his new book “The Dip“. His book isn’t really about quitting, but about building mastery, but part of the path to mastery is about knowing when to quit. As an expert at quitting, or rather designing my own career path, I thought I’d add my thoughts about how this has worked for me and what some of the critical steps in recognizing dips are.

Seth describes the “Dip” as the moment when something gets hard. Sometimes this dip is a sign that what you are currently doing isn’t right for you, you’re not motivated to do it, and you don’t have the skills or temperament to really succeed and attain mastery at what you are doing – then it’s really a cul-de-sac. Or it can also be the sign that you are just hitting the barrier that keeps others from attaining mastery, and if you perservere, and push through that dip, you will emerge with a truly unique skill and level of success that matches.

How can you tell whether it is just the moment before mastery or a cul-de-sac? If you can envision the goal beyond the dip, and feel motivated and excited to get back to the hard stuff, you may be experiencing the “Dip”. If you envision the goal, and you feel less than motivated, excited and energized to get there, you may be in a cul-de-sac, rather than a dip. Recognizing the cul-de-sac, you can move on to other goals and paths that allow you that chance at mastery and great success.

From my own experience, I learned this lesson early on. I was a PhD candidate at UC Berkeley in physical chemistry. Everything seemed to be going just fine, except that I was miserable. This could have been a dip, but as I contemplated getting my PhD, and going on into academia or corporate research, I felt even worse, and less motivated than ever. I really dug deep within myself to determine why I wasn’t energized by this path, and realized that the scientific research environment I was in wasn’t very “warm”, and required too much time alone in a lab to satisfy my need to connect with other people. Intellectually, I loved it, but as a significant part of my daily life, I felt too isolated and didn’t gain enough energy from being in the lab. For me, it was a cul-de-sac.

My peers from those days have gone on to do great things and taken wonderful professorships at great institutions. They are happy, successful, and have “broken through” the dip to achieve mastery in their fields. It is a good fit for them – they have the skills, temperament and drive to be very successful. I can’t be sure what would have happened if I had pushed on and finished my PhD, but I doubt I would have achieved the kind of mastery my peers who had the passion for the lab did.

As I left the PhD program, I felt a great sense of relief, and I went on to pursue a career in strategy consulting in Japan and achieved mastery in Japanese language and culture, and strategic thinking. I leveraged that into brand marketing with big consumer companies, polishing strategy with implementation and adding coaching and organizational development. Transcend (www.transcendllc.biz) has been the culmination of that experience, which I now leverage for my clients.

In finding a way to combine my analytical and strategic thinking with softer people skills and mentoring, I identified a career path that is building mastery. What I have done is unique to me, and not done in the same way by anyone else – and the courage to quit something that made me unhappy has been critical to finding the path that motivates and stretches me.

Recognition of your own strengths and weaknesses, and finding those fields that allow your strengths to shine is one milestone on that path to success. You may stumble across them by accident, but self-knowledge allows you to make more conscious choices for your life and career path.

What motivates you? What skills and strengths do you have? How could you leverage that in a career and life path that lets you shine?

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